The Soft Life I Built for My Children

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I’ve been seeing a lot of posts about people wanting to live a “soft life.” As I begin my own journey this year, my focus has been on coping with grief and embracing peace. Honestly, I don’t care much about the idea of a soft life for myself — all I’ve ever known is to keep going, no matter what.

But for my children, I wanted something different. Even when we were homeless, I made sure they never had to feel that weight. To this day, they still think we were just on vacation during that time, and that memory helps my heart keep going. Back then, I felt like I was failing, but now I see how far we’ve come.

Today, my kids live the soft life I always dreamed of for them. They don’t have to worry about a thing, and their teachers often tell me what a joyful childhood they seem to be having. Mia truly acts like a princess, and I never want her to think any less of herself. They call me their Queen, and I remind them that even princesses have to work hard and learn to become the best versions of themselves.

My son, Jay, is still facing challenges, but I’ve been reminded that he has to want to change before anything truly shifts. Until then, we will continue to love and support him as we always have. He is still a prince, no matter what.

I believe in knowing your children deeply, loving them wholeheartedly, and never giving up on them. Even after the passing of my daughter, I still see her as my princess. Every single day, I push forward for my children — through pain, sickness, and anything else life throws my way.

I want them to grow up strong, so that no one can ever come into their lives and convince them to settle for less than they deserve. I want them to experience everything beautiful that life has to offer.

I thank God every day for my children — for trusting me to be their Mama.